Training is an element that some couples incorporate into their BDSM relationships. Punishment is used to correct undesirable behavior, and some dominants strive to find the perfect punishment. The following BDSM punishment ideas and tips will help you find what works for you and your relationship.

HOW DOES BDSM PUNISHMENT WORK?

An important element of many D/s relationships is discipline. What is another word for discipline? Punishment!

BDSM punishments are a way to help a dominant train their submissive. In this article, we will discuss punishments as if you are the dominant, exploring new, cruel, and unusual ways to correct your submissive.

Each time your submissive does something wrong, you punish them so they learn a lesson. On the other hand, you provide encouragement and reward for the things they do well. It means they understand the rules and your expectations and give the right amount of attention to detail when performing those tasks.

These tasks and their corresponding punishments can be described in your BDSM contract, or they can be more informal. You design them as the need arises and as you see fit. But if your submissive/slave has not consented to the punishment, then you cannot suddenly start punishing them.

Just because you are in a BDSM relationship doesn’t mean you have to incorporate BDSM punishments. You may not have a training or service relationship at all, but rather focus more on sensation, sadomasochism, or bondage rather than discipline. Or you may intend to train your submissive with a focus on positive versus negative reinforcement (punishment).

PUNISHMENT SHOULD BE PROPORTIONAL TO THE OFFENSE

Now, there is no real offense. There may be a bad attitude, a broken rule, or some other infraction. But whatever you choose for discipline should be more or less equal to the infraction. A minor mistake, therefore, could justify a timeout.

You should reserve the more severe BDSM punishments for worse or repeated infractions. It’s like being a parent. Consider this: use the least painful punishment to convey the message.

If you have trouble matching discipline to the offense, you could be disciplining your submissive out of anger. Again, it’s similar to parenting. Anger can lead to making poor decisions regarding the BDSM punishments you give. It is often helpful to take a breather to determine what punishment fits the offense and to ensure you don’t overdo it when it comes time to administer it.

You should never punish when you’re angry because it’s too easy to be too intense and potentially harm your submissive. You don’t want to go beyond what your submissive can handle, which leads us to the next point.

KNOW YOUR SUBMISSIVE'S LIMITS

BDSM punishments should be practical and achievable. You don’t want to assign something that you know your submissive won’t be able to do. Failure is not your g...